Five Simple Ways to Love Yourself More

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Self-love is such a popular topic these days, especially with the new year in full swing. Most people want to feel better, do better and be happier, but how can we do that? Self-love isn’t just a feeling, but also an action.

I am guilty of not living in the moment, always worrying about the next step, or what tomorrow will bring. How many times have you said, “I will be happy when I meet ‘the one’”, “Things will be better when I get married”, “I will be happy when I get a promotion”, “I just need to lose 10 more pounds and I will be prettier”, and so on, and so on. That WAS me! Of course I still struggle and have my days, but, once I started taking better care of myself (and I don’t mean exercise and diet – although that works too!) but once I started really focusing on self-care, I was able to truly realize that life is happening NOW and I didn’t want to wait for that happiness anymore; I made it myself.

So, how do we take action?

Set Boundaries
Saying no to others and yes to yourself does not make you selfish. If it doesn’t align with your priorities, say no. When you choose you, you will harbor less resentment and anger, less anxiety and depression and you might even gain some self-esteem and confidence.

Start small by writing about yourself and what you already love about yourself, for instance, 5 of your biggest accomplishments, or make a list of what makes you happiest and how you can incorporate more of that into your daily routine. Journaling is a great tool to help clear your mind and create more self-awareness.


Choose Your Company Wisely
You are the company you keep. Get rid of the negative energy and surround yourself with cheerleaders; the people who support you through and through.
Side note: this gets easier with time!

Use Daily Affirmations
We all know the power of positive self-talk. But you must really believe the meaning behind what it is you are telling yourself. We so freely offer love and kind words to our family and friends, but tend to neglect ourselves with that same love and kindness. Change that.

Here are a few of my favorite daily affirmations

Personal Development
Read about topics that interest you and help you to grow as a person. Join a book club, a church group, Bible study, or create your own. Sometimes a little inspiration can go a long way.

Here are my four favorite books right now. Not all are directly related to self-love, but rather accepting yourself for who you are, loving others for who they are and living your best life (it’s all full circle!).

Let me know know if you read any of these books and what you think.